The Advantage Factor: Become the Parent your Child Needs.
Parenting is more than providing material comforts for your child. It’s about giving them your time, presence, and unconditional love. So, here’s a question for you: “Am I the kind of parent who gives my child a true advantage?” This post explores what it means to be that kind of parent, the one who offers more than things—a parent who becomes the foundation their child builds on.
Often, when we think about parenting, the focus tends to be on the child—what they are or aren’t doing—while little attention is given to the parent. But here’s the thing: your child is a reflection of you. If something seems off, it’s worth asking, “What am I showing my child?” Because, whether you realize it or not, they’re watching you create your life, develop your habits, and form your values. Your child learns how to navigate life by observing how you handle yours.
We all mirror the people who raised us, and sometimes we end up becoming the very parent we didn’t want to be. Without reflection and intentional growth, we risk repeating patterns we never intended to pass on. Becoming the parent your child needs starts with growing yourself. Every complaint you have about your child is often tied to something within yourself that needs attention. Are you ready to become the best version of yourself, for their sake?
Five Traits of an Advantage Parent
These traits aren’t static; they require ongoing effort and growth. You never “arrive” but continually build on them.
1. The Connector: Building a Strong Parent-Child Bond
To be an advantage to your child, you must be the connector. The connector is attuned to their child’s emotional needs and creates a safe space for them to feel understood. If you’re not connected to your child, you might find them becoming distant, overly obedient, or rebellious—all signs of internal struggle. Children who feel connected to their parents are more secure, confident, and resilient.
Being a connector is about practicing active listening. Don’t shut down your child’s voice, even when they disagree with you. Real authority comes from trust and respect, not control. If your child trusts you, they will feel safe enough to share their true thoughts and feelings. And in turn, you’ll help them develop better communication and social skills.
Make time for your child. Parenting isn’t about managing time; it’s about managing your energy. Prioritize regular time with your child to build that connection. Establish family traditions and values that provide a sense of belonging. Consistent parenting provides the stability children need to explore, learn, and grow.
2. The Mentor: Guiding Values and Life Skills
A mentor not only teaches but lives by example. A child equipped with strong life skills and values is better prepared to face challenges and contribute to society. Being a mentor starts with personal growth. No one follows a stagnant person. Your child isn’t looking for more information—they can get that anywhere—they’re looking for value.
You become valuable to your child when you show them how to solve problems, live by strong values, and stay accountable. They will follow your lead if they see you’re growing and accountable to someone else. Mentorship is about showing your child that life is a journey of continuous learning and growth.
3. The Role Model: Leading by Example
Children learn more from what you do than what you say. If you want to be a role model, start with perseverance, kindness, and investing in yourself. To truly lead your child, you must lead yourself first. The lessons of discipline, empathy, and integrity don’t come from lectures; they come from your everyday actions.
Ask yourself: “Who am I becoming?” Until you embody the values you preach, you won’t be truly followable. Your willingness to evolve as a parent is the greatest gift you can give your child. As you grow, so do they.
4. The Builder: Creating a Supportive Environment
You can’t build a strong foundation for your child if you haven’t built one for yourself. Before you can guide your child through life’s storms, you need to build your own resilience and capacity. Building yourself is about continually growing and evolving, as age alone doesn’t make you wiser or better equipped.
The people you surround yourself with and the knowledge you acquire will shape who you become. To be a builder for your child, you need to invest in your personal growth first.
5. The Guardian: Offering Stability and Guidance
A guardian provides consistency, dependability, and a strong presence. Your child should feel grounded knowing you are there for them, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally. To be a guardian, start by shifting your mindset to one of growth. Content is key. You need to have something to offer, to teach, and to guide your child through their own growth process.
Parenting does have a manual—it’s just not one-size-fits-all. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go.” This means there’s a unique blueprint for every child, and as a parent, it’s your job to discover it. To truly be a guardian, you need to tap into the divine blueprint for your child’s life.
The journey of parenting isn’t about perfecting your child—it’s about becoming the parent they need. Every day you commit to growing, learning, and evolving, you offer your child the opportunity to do the same. Are you ready to become the parent your child can truly look up to? Start today, by looking inward, growing yourself, and becoming the advantage your child needs.
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